Sick of dating?

Dating does not seem to work for you. You try your best to please your partner but it still does not seem to do the trick. Your beloved might not be responsive, or you are having a hard time managing the things your beloved wants.

But despite all these troubles, you just want to keep up with your beloved. There is something about the person that drives you crazy – good or bad being no matter. You want to keep on dating the person.

Here are some of the problems dating someone, and how you could possible find a solution to make the relationship grow:

Communicate. The trouble is, you keep on guessing what’s on each other’s mind. It does not work like that. You do not consult the stars, or make some voodoo ritual just to know what each other wants. If you want to say something, say it. If you think something your beloved wants to say but just can’t say, make the effort to ask and genuinely listen. What matters is the timing of your speaking, and how you actually say it. It is a matter of feeling through the situation and making the moment happen. Once you start talking well, it will continue to happen. Soon enough, your communication would go beyond words and you will be able to read each other through glances and a few phrases. It all starts with talking. It does not come in a vacuum.

Invest on memories. Dating becomes boring when you do the same things all the time. If you want to make it into a relationship, then invest on memories. Try things you both have not done previously, or you have not done at all – wall climbing, boating, swimming, whatever. The point is you expand both your horizons and taking every chance to build memories together. Learning from each other. Learning with each other. And these would make you realize how wonderful each person is. Such surprises would also be helpful when you are already in the relationship. When you have troubles and feel like you want to give up, remembering those times you truly spent together would help.

Touch. And by touch it means lightly. Hold your beloved’s hand when climbing stairs, or getting out of a cab. Touch your beloved’s cheek when he or she says something that really made you smile or laugh. Touch your beloved’s hair when you are beside each other. The key to touching is to make your beloved feel that you notice the little things that seem to be noticeable. Your beloved will feel loved for the small things he or she does spontaneously. It will build on the trust your beloved has for you, and for your part, you will be amazed on how wonderful he or she truly is.

When you have problems dating someone, it only means you both have not extended a part of yourselves to each other which hinders the connection to realize. Those mentioned above are very basic things that you could do. Whatever happens, remember that the key to dating is not focusing yourself on your beloved per se, but to be able to establish the view – to stand beside each other and look at the horizon in the same direction, and take the risk to reach it. Dating then successfully builds on the love.

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