Find Out If She Is The Woman For You

I’m glad that I’ve got positive feedback regarding the post i posted yesterday and a reader actually said I was being a sexist by only offering women a guide to find out whether the man in their life is the right one.

What about the guys? Well, of course I must offer a guide for them too. So if you are wondering if the woman of your life is the right one for you, keep reading.

1. Observe the conversations you have with her

>> Does she include you in her plans when she talks about the future? If you are not sure, you can try ’sounding’ her out and asking about the future and see what she says. If she talks about anything except a life together with you in the future, you might want to talk to her and ask her about what her plans are for the both of you.

2. Consider you have common goals

>> Are you heading in the same direction? Do you share common interests and values? Do you both have the same goal of living a life together? If you have conflicting interests, you might want to sit down and talk to her soon, if marriage is in the cards for this year. Think about what the both of you truly want together in life.

3. Think about your compatibility

>> Do you both want the same things out of life? Do you both have common interests and plans such as starting a family, having kids, financial stability, money, careers? Are you interested in her work and hobbies? What about her? Does she seem interested in your job and pastimes, even if she doesn’t share your passion for them?

4. Evaluate how she treats you in private and in public.

>> Is there a difference? Does she brag about you to others? Does she seem proud to be with you, or does she avoid being seen with you in public places? Does she stick around when you’re having a bad day, or does she disappear when you need her the most? You need to see if you can depend on her and at the same time, whether she truly loves you and sticks by who you are.

5. Evaluate how she treats your friends and family.

>> Is she nice to your friends and family? Or is she at least nice to them even if she doesn’t like them? If she is unable to accept your family and friends (which by the way, constitute a rather big part of your life), you might try talking to her and convincing her about improving relations with them. If the discussion gets hot, you need to evaluate again whether her attitude towards them is acceptable to you.

6. Assess her honesty and trustworthiness.

>> Does she do what she says she’s going to do? Do you feel you can trust her and depend on her? If you don’t think you have faith in her or trust her, your relationship is in a rather dangerous position because it should have a foundation based on trust and love and lacking in trust is like telling you not to water a pot of flower and letting it wilt.

7.  Why do you like her?

>> Remember that lust fades, but genuine compatibility endures. And you must establish the reasons why you like her and make sure that this is not a short term relationship but one that you see being in for the rest of your life (that is if you are planning to eventually marry her).

Remember to communicate with your girlfriend and discuss those issues which make have conflicting interests or views to figure out if you’re both meant for each other. If you realise that perhaps, things are not going anywhere, you will need to reconsider where your relationship is heading.

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