Honesty is the Best Policy

When you join an online dating service, you are looking for a girl that you can like…or even come to love. That girl is also looking for a guy that SHE can like or even love. What you aren’t looking for, is a girl who would like your best friend or your idea of what the perfect guy looks like, talks like or thinks like. So, in order to find the right girl for you…and she IS out there somewhere, you need to be completely honest with yourself about yourself when writing the online profile, during the dating process and beyond.

The best way to begin writing your profile is to carefully analyze your past relationship(s). What was right? What went wrong? What things really made you like the last girl? Which didn’t? Don’t assume that just because you couldn’t stand that your last girl was so totally self-involved that she couldn’t see anything else, you’ll be able to overlook that quality this time. You won’t. You are your limiting factor. So look for someone that does not clash with that limiting factor.

If you aren’t 6’1” with a six-pack to be proud of, don’t say you are. If you are a bar tender, don’t claim to be a lawyer with a six figure income. If you are 40 going on 50, don’t pretend to be 30 something.

Remember, the idea here is to find a girl who will like you exactly like you are. If you have lied in your profile, the first face-to-face meeting will remove all her doubt that you are a liar…and probably a cheat, as well. You want to be honest about everything so that it will not hurt a future relationship. Nobody should point fingers and say, ”If I knew I won’t have married you!”

Lastly, once you have found a girl that you believe can be the one for you, for goodness sake, cancel your membership to the online dating service. If you have spent time subscribing to those online dating sites, you will have to spent time removing yourself from them. You reap what you sow. After all, you know and she knows that online dating services are intended for those who are looking and not those who have found or been found.

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