Set Goals In Your Relationship (PART 2)

As mentioned in part one of this 2-part article, that setting goals together plays an important part in a relationship because there are increasing factors that occur in a relationship, such as getting married, building careers and building a family together. And without proper planning, it can cause both parties to lose sight of what each other want.

There are different types of goals that you and your partner can set for your relationship:

Personal goals are the specific things you want to accomplish in your lifetime for yourself. It’s important that you make decisions for yourself that are going to fit into the person you want to be.

An example of personal goals is your career goals. Depending on what kind of career you want or are in, there will be specific goals that you need to follow to make sure that you have all that you need to achieve your goal. You have to ask yourself, what part does your partner have in order for you to help you reach where you want in your career.

Lifetime goals are goals that give you the perspective that you need to shape many of the decisions that you’ll be making in your life. They are goals that you’ll normally keep and have for the rest of your life. An example is happiness/ pleasure. You need to know what you need to help you achieve happiness, especially how to achieve happiness for both you and your partner in your relationship together. Make a list of things that will make both of you happy. List the steps that you and your partner need to take in order to achieve these things. And together, work to achieve it together.

Financial goals are also goals which involve you to achieve in a lifetime. Firstly, determine how much you want to be making when you reach a certain age and what sort of financial status would you like to achieve together with your partner.

Physical goals determine what athletic achievements you would like to achieve. They are important because they constitute a big part of your life – always staying in good health to enjoy life. How are you and your partner going to achieve growing old together and keep each other in good health.

The ultimate goal in your relationship should be building up a family. Setting family goals can be a bit more difficult than other goals because you and your partner’s decision will affect the rest of your lives and potentially other people in your life such as your children. You’ll first need to decide if you want to be a parent and the responsibilities that come along with it.

Once you have a list of the above categories clearly written down you’ll need to assign them with a priority number. Work down the list starting from the topmost priority but keep in mind that you can change the priority of a category at any time because it always good to reestablish and/or set new goals – to adapt your goals to the changing wants and needs of each other. It’s important that for this to happen, you need to either vocalize your new goals or write them down so that neither one of you are left in the dark.

Moreover, always keep a positive attitude when setting goals together. Never let negative thoughts or mindsets hold you back or influence your decision.

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Set Goals In Your Relationship (PART 1)

When goals are created in a relationship between both people involved in it, the chances of having a long-lasting relationship are good. And what this also creates is a sense of responsibility on both parties to maintain and develop the romantic relationship that you have because both people have to follow and reach the goals together. Relationships fail because both parties do not know what each other want and are pursuing totally different goals.

In order for a relationship to work, it is important to know the expectations that each party has for the relationship and what both wish to accomplish together through the relationship. And also to know what goals are both parties pursuing and developing a passion in the pursuit for it together.

Normally relationships last long because both partners have set personal plans and goals that each agree on. Sometimes, this is rather hard to accomplish because not everyone wants the same things. Moreover, building trust and understanding that lasts a lifetime is a long process to achieve the level of satisfaction one would expect in a relationship, which not many couples actually are patient enough to do so.

So, if you are in a relationship and have not established the goals in your relationship with your partner, it’s time to do so. And here are some things that you need to take into consideration:

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The Difference Between Man And Woman

God made Man and Woman different. And though they both are human beings, well, they function really differently. I’m sure you will agree with me that men and women seem to operate at different frequencies and sometimes, it’s difficult to get both to agree with each other.

Well, if you haven’t realised, the true difference between man and woman is not their physical anatomy but in the way they communicate.

I recently browsed several blogs and chanced upon Desmond’s blog where he interestingly brought up this issue. More amusingly, he actually managed to capture the very essence of how men and women operate.

Moreover, he ended his blog post with this:

“P.S: Do Not Try to Calm down an Angry Woman. Just dodge the bullets and wait for it to cool down. When she starts to chill and lose her emotion, logic will start coming in and she will see the bigger picture.”

Well, I feel that it can be really true sometimes. Women are born less rational and more emotional than men, which makes us susceptible to the environmental conditions, perceptions of the situation and also to the emotions that we are experiencing at that moment.

I don’t deny that because of our lack of ability to allow our emotions to affect us, men have termed us as being unreasonable, difficult to understand and even hard to please. But before these accusations fly amok again, it’s good to realise that different people process information differently which explains why 2 people faced with the same situation will narrate the situation differently as well as handle it differently.

I agree with Desmond effective communication is needed for both genders to be able to understand each other well and this reduces miscommunication of ideas. However, this does not only apply in romantic relationships, but also in work relationships, friendships or professional relationships - communication is the key to having a successful relationship!

So, always think about the way you communicate your ideas and suggestions to others. Do they respond the way you wish they would or do things turn sour? Well, pay attention to your body language, tonality of the voice and choice of words to help you understand the way you communicate better!  

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Be A Part Of Your Boyfriend’s Gang

It’s natural that after dating for a couple of weeks, that a man will want to introduce his girlfriend for the first time to his friends. This meeting might be a little frightening for you since there are so many expectations involved. And often there are expectations that a man might have for his girlfriend for this occasion because it can either inflate or deflate his ego.

If you are a girlfriend who is to be making your grand appearance at a boys’ night soon, here are a couple of things you’ll like to take note.

1. Appear your best.

>> Dress in a fashionable way but yet not too seductive or revealing. Men are usually conservative when it comes to publicly introducing the woman in their life. Sure he will want to show off that his girlfriend has a hot bod but he won’t like the idea that his best pals are probably having wild fantasies about her. Ask your boyfriend what would be the most appealing and appropriate outfit. Also pay extra attention to your hair, make-up and overall appearance. Well, to be safe, always find out what they normally dress for their boys’ night and wear something to suit the occasion.

2. Talk freely.

>> Express your opinions freely but always think before you speak. Don’t try to appear over-smart while conversing with his friends. Don’t be shy and try to look the most attractive. Men like to introduce jokes in every almost everything they say, so don’t consider it as if they’re trying to insult you or something. Laugh whole-heartedly on their humorous jibes and try to put in some of your own jokes in your conversation. If you don’t know what to say at some question, allow your boyfriend to handle that. If you feel that you can’t offer anything good in the discussion, well, just don’t say anything because the last thing you would want to do is embarrass yourself with old news. Just be yourself and try to leave a positive impression on their minds before you leave.

3. Get to know your company

>> Try to know the names of the guys you’ll be meeting and surprise them by recognizing them. They would appreciate that you put in this extra effort to get to know them better. Perhaps, some of his friends might be bringing their own girlfriends to the gathering. Try to be friendly with all of them and socialize.

4. Preserve your secrets.

>> Although friends know a lot about each other but still there might be something that is just between you and your partner. Don’t reveal anything that might embarrass him in front of his friends afterwards. Try to have the conversation revolve around their lives, instead of letting them pry into your private matters.

Try your best to impress his friends when you meet them for the first time but don’t overdo it. Just be yourself and be confident and the occasion will turn out just fine!

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