Do You Know You Can Choose Who You Want In Your Life?

In life, each person has their own destinies, potential and freedom of choice. And the combination of all three can determine what kind of life you will lead. Moreover, the three are also associated with the relationships with others that you choose and have.

A person’s destiny is his/her opportunity to fulfill his/her life’s purpose. Everyone is born into this world with a purpose. And it is a predetermined circumstance that will manifest at some point in life. Though it is not proven that we have predestined challenges, but we do face challenges every single day. And the way we react and response to these challenges are important because they can path out the way our lives are lived and the relationships that we have.

Each person also has his/ her own potential where, when we are challenged, we have the ability to either solve the problem or worsen the situation. Our potential determines how we hurt others or how we enhance our relationships with others. And everyone has a choice to decide what is best for themselves. And because it is our lives that we are leading, we need to choose whom we engage with and decide for ourselves the paths that we take with the person.

Hence, the people that we want and who are in our lives are dependent on whether he/she helps to fulfill our purpose in life. For instance, people meet their significant half because he/she helps to fulfill their needs for companionship and also their purpose of reproducing their offspring and also having a married life.

Moreover, it is dependent on our potential to respond to the opportunities that we have to interact with our potential relationship partners. Our actions and behaviour can either attract/ deter someone from getting to know us better.

Lastly, our freedom of choice determines who ends up in our lives. We can choose to either maintain the relationship and develop it further or just well, let it die away. Our choice ultimately determines if we fulfill our destiny as well. Moreover, who we want in our lives are dependent on the choices and decisions we make and hence, it is important that in selecting a partner, we must always be cautious when exercising our freedom of choice because we don’t want to end up regretting a choice that we made.

Well, I hope that you can think about the three factors that determine who ends up in your life and exercise your freedom of choice wisely, especially if it is for a long term relationship partner whom you are going to spend your life with. All the best!

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Are You Attracting What You Want For Your Relationships?

Do you know that whatever we have in our lives, we have attracted them into our lives? The things, relationships, people, events and situations are being attracted into our lives every single day. There are several experiences which are positive and we feel like we are in the very flow of life. Whereas other experiences are more negative and it can leave us questioning how we have actually come to attract such a negative or painful experience into our lives.

I recently got to watch ‘The Secret’ and frankly, the Law of Attraction came to me as a sort of revelation. It is so true and exists as an extremely powerful force which affects our lives - whether or not we are aware of how it is working at any one time.

Do you know we are subconsciously creating events in our lives which consciously and deliberately affect our experience?

And it is especially so that we can attract people into our lives. Specific people - our colleagues, partners, friends, or family members are all attracted to us through the things that we do.

So how can I attract the relationships I want?

Everyone that is engaged in our lives, have relationships with us and attracted to us are people who are a match to something that we are vibrating at either a conscious or subconscious level. Well, what you vibrate is what or who you will attract. Hence it is important that you know what vibes you are sending out to ensure that you get a perfect match or the person you want in your life.

Think about it, when we want to feel happy and optimistic (vibrating at a high speed), we will want to hang out with similar people who are empowered and optimistic. And well, we want to attract them to us in all aspects of our life. Because we know that when this happens, there is a connection that feels wonderful!

Do you realize that when you are feeling down (vibrating at low speeds), we are likely to find those who complain to us about all the things they are down about too? We will often engage with the person and stay at that low vibration or perhaps collectively go lower. How does this feel? Bad right?

Hence, you must always remember that if you want to attract the right person into a relationship, we need to take note of the speed we are vibrating at. Because it will attract someone who is of similar vibration. And your vibration can potentially be a match with someone whom you don’t want to be associated with, so always be wary!

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Be A Part Of Your Girlfriend’s Clique

It’s natural that after dating for a couple of weeks, that a girl will want to introduce her boyfriend for the first time to her friends. And meeting her friends when you have been in a relationship is a very important event for your girlfriend because to a girl, her friends’ approval is what she seeks the most.

You might be worried about making an impression and that whether they would approve of you or not. But it doesn’t matter what their opinion might be, because you still have to leave a good impression on them in order to win your woman’s heart. These people are important to you because they might prove to be helpful in improving your relationship with the woman in your life.

Here are a few steps that you might like to take note in preparation for this meeting with her best friends.

1. Be confident

>> Well, believe in yourself and relax. You don’t need to dress up formally or do something out of the ordinary. Introduce yourself confidently and boldly to them but don’t appear to be arrogant and self-centered. Politely ask their names and what they do. Get to know them better and bring humor into your conversations and show that you are genuinely interested in meeting them.

2. Bring something for them

>> When you are going to meet them for the first time, it will be good to bring something for them together with your girlfriend. Prepare something together such as flowers, chocolates, brownies, cookies and other accessories.

3. Be A Gentleman

>> Arrange to have a quality time such as a dinner evening and offer to plan the outing itself. Book a nice place for the gathering and offer to pick them up and drop them at their homes at the end of the evening. Also, listen to their stories intently and respond to their jokes whole-heartedly. Compliment on the way they look BUT never over do it.

4. Properly memorize their names

>> This is because you won’t want to embarrass your girlfriend by mixing her friends’ names up.

5. Be cautious in choosing your words while conversing with her friends.

>>Never give hints that you’re trying to flirt with them. If they notice it, it’s one thing but if your girlfriend notices it, you will be in trouble.

6. Even if you are getting bored, don’t show it!

>> Remember that it will soon be over and always thank the girls for the lovely evening.

You need to make this meeting successful because you will need it to help you in your relationship as well as get closer to your girlfriend. Do not do anything that might be detrimental to your relationship. Well, if you succeed in leaving a good impression on her friends, she will be pleased with you and then you two can have that romantic and intimate time together once this meeting is over. Moreover, you can be sure that your relationship is off to a steady and good start!

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Find Out If She Is The Woman For You

I’m glad that I’ve got positive feedback regarding the post i posted yesterday and a reader actually said I was being a sexist by only offering women a guide to find out whether the man in their life is the right one.

What about the guys? Well, of course I must offer a guide for them too. So if you are wondering if the woman of your life is the right one for you, keep reading.

1. Observe the conversations you have with her

>> Does she include you in her plans when she talks about the future? If you are not sure, you can try ’sounding’ her out and asking about the future and see what she says. If she talks about anything except a life together with you in the future, you might want to talk to her and ask her about what her plans are for the both of you.

2. Consider you have common goals

>> Are you heading in the same direction? Do you share common interests and values? Do you both have the same goal of living a life together? If you have conflicting interests, you might want to sit down and talk to her soon, if marriage is in the cards for this year. Think about what the both of you truly want together in life.

3. Think about your compatibility

>> Do you both want the same things out of life? Do you both have common interests and plans such as starting a family, having kids, financial stability, money, careers? Are you interested in her work and hobbies? What about her? Does she seem interested in your job and pastimes, even if she doesn’t share your passion for them?

4. Evaluate how she treats you in private and in public.

>> Is there a difference? Does she brag about you to others? Does she seem proud to be with you, or does she avoid being seen with you in public places? Does she stick around when you’re having a bad day, or does she disappear when you need her the most? You need to see if you can depend on her and at the same time, whether she truly loves you and sticks by who you are.

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Find Out If He Is The Man For You!

I was talking to my best friend, Grace just the other day. And we were just talking about how we have found our other half through interesting ways. Like she met hers online and I met mine at well, a cab stand. Well, after taking our risks and entering into our relationships, we think back and well, evaluate if these men in our lives are the men for us! *gRinz*

Definitely, everyone would hope to say, “I have found my soul mate”, well.. just like i do.. *blush* but not many people have the real opportunity to do so. Some females realise that they made a big mistake and that their guy turned out not to be their ideal partner. But there are definitely some who are blissfully in love. And even after years of being together with their partner and facing a variety of problems, they are still the same way - madly in love as though they have just got together.

Envious of these ladies? Don’t be! But how do they do it?

Firstly, you must choose the man who has the qualities that you are looking for! Identify the qualities that you want in your partner. For myself, I want a humourous, witty, smart and caring man. Someone who will be my best friend, my knight in shining armour and will accept me for who I am. And with this partner, he must let me and help me achieve my full potential!

What about you? Have you identified the qualities that you are looking out for?

In case you haven’t, the following are important steps that you might want to consider taking when finding out if the man is the one for you!

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How To Deal With A Break Up

When dealing with a breakup, it’s painful. Sometimes, you know the reason behind it, often, you don’t. How do you deal with it when you don’t know what went wrong and how it went wrong and the thoughts in your mind keep circling around the fact that perhaps, you were not good enough.

It’s hard to deal with a failure, especially one in a relationship and even more when you don’t know what had caused the breakup to take place. Friends have told me that it feels like a piece of flesh torn in them - often the heart, or that something was robbed away - often the love they forked out, or that it was a whirlwind that swept them away.

There are ways to deal with the aftermath of a sudden breakup and I just want to share them…

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How To Make A Long Distance Relationship Work

Well, we often hear that those involved in long-distance relationships eventually drift apart and break up because of the distance barrier and well, because of proximity reasons. But that does not mean that long-distance relationships won’t work!

It can work and has worked for many. My parents are a great example by the way. I feel that so long as there is a strong commitment from you and your partner to overcome the odds in a long-distance relationship, it will definitely work out!

Speaking of my parents, well they had their long distance relationship for a total of 14 years! And they have shared with me the 10 ways to make a long distance relationship work! Here they are:

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Ways To Spend An Anniversary

Well well, just to share with everyone, the bliss that I’ve been experiencing this entire week… Haha.. Calvin and I are celebrating our 2nd anniversary this today!

Gosh.. 2 years seems to pretty much fly past before we even know it. It has been 1 year since we both embarked on this journey together as a couple and I must say, we both have grown a lot through this relationship. I no longer was that spoilt brat and egoistic woman.. (though Calvin would still say that I still have those characteristics)… and he’s no longer well, the ‘casanova’ I always thought of him to be. LOL~!

The second year anniversary for us to celebrate our love for one another and by doing so, it just serves to remind us the reasons why we decided to get together and commit ourselves in the relationship.

Anyway, we were just brainstorming what we can do to celebrate our anniversary and well, we have come up with some ways to well, spend a special day with your loved one.

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Build Relationships For A Healthy Lifestyle

Social interactions are important in our daily lives and they form an integral part of a balanced and healthy lifestyle. It is healthy to have many different types of relationships because the relationships we have with others constitute the social support that we have and it is very important to our mental health and a crucial part of living a healthy lifestyle.

Relationships between your friends, colleagues, neighbours or even family members are just a few of examples of relationships that we have with others. Most of us have friends from school and family members we are close with. And if you work, you will have co-workers to interact with. But the fundamental idea behind all the relationships is the need for communication and sharing, what is happening in and about our lives.

For some people, building relationships is easy while some might find it hard because they are set in their own ways or maybe because they are shy. If you are rather shy, you need to slowly open up and get to know the many opportunities available to meet other people. Opportunities such as joining the gym or a club, or volunteering at a charity are all great ways to meet people. Moreover if you have children, you can meet many people at school activities and sporting events.

Besides, we can also befriend the local mailman or perhaps the cashier at the grocery store. We can develop casual acquaintances with large amounts of people and they can be people whom we interact most of the time or just once in a blue moon. It’s all up to you - your decision to decide whether you want to establish them as a contact and have a relationship with them.

But how do I maintain the relationship?

The secret to having good relationships is sharing yourself with others. It is also about give and take. Treat others as you want them to treat you. And always make an effort to keep in contact with them - be it through the telephone or just to drop an email. Well, do make sure you keep those personal connections alive. If you haven’t spent time in a relationship for a while, do consider calling to say that you are thinking of them. This shows that you are still committed to the relationship.

It is easy to let our lifestyle affect our relationships now that there are plenty of distractions and entertainment avenues in our lives. Besides, the computer age has made us less sociable and we do not communicate face to face as much. But it’s important to maintain relationships and never let them die down. Because you never know when we may need their assistance at any point of our lives.

We find out who our true friends when the going gets tough. And it will be great if your friend is able to support you during those times. And even better, if you can support them during their most difficult times. The people who stand by us no matter what is going on are the people who are our true friends whom we can trust and count on for support, motivation and encouragement. And the existence of such true friends should make us want to be equally true friends to others!

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Find People With The Same Interests!

I realised that no matter what your interests are, you’ll definitely be able to find like-minded people! And finding like-minded people will bring you closer to finding the special one…

How so?

Because I got to know course mates who are into counselling or offering advice, especially in the area of relationship! And it’s amazing when you talk about what you are passionate about, how many ideas you can churn out together in a short period of time!

And when you meet up with these people, it’s almost like an automatic connection. You begin to exchange notes, learn from their experiences, and offer your own experiences in return. And you know what’s best? The support that you can receive from these people can be truly amazing.

I found my course mates well, through my course tutorials. But you can find people with common interests too! And you can do so from your own home! So how do you begin finding people who have the same interests from the comforts of your own home?

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